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Questions to Ask Your Grandparents About How They Met

Ask them together and let them correct each other. The best version of this story has two narrators.

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An older couple on their sofa laugh over their framed wedding photo while a grandchild sits on the floor in front of them.

The version under the toast

Every couple has an official version of how they met, polished over decades of dinner parties. Ask the questions underneath it and you hear the parts that never made it into the toast: who noticed whom first, the date that went wrong, the parent who didn’t approve.

If both grandparents are living, ask them together. They will interrupt, disagree about details and remind each other of things. If one has died, the one who remains often loves to tell it, and it can be a comfort to be asked.

Before you sit down

  • Bring the wedding photo, or any photo of them young.
  • Ask each of them separately what they noticed first. Compare the answers later.
  • Laugh where they laugh. Let the old jokes land.
  • Be gentle if one of them is gone. Ask what they miss.

The first meeting

  1. Where were you the first time you saw each other?
  2. What did you notice first?
  3. Who spoke first, and what was said?
  4. Did you like each other right away?
  5. Who did you tell about it afterward?

Courting

  1. What was your first date? Whose idea was it?
  2. What did people your age do on a date back then?
  3. Was there a song that became yours?
  4. Did anyone in either family object?
  5. When did you know it was serious?

The proposal and the wedding

  1. How did the proposal happen? Was it a surprise?
  2. What was the wedding like? Who was there?
  3. What went wrong on the day?
  4. Where did you go afterward, and where did you live first?

The long run

  1. What was your hardest year together, and how did you get through it?
  2. What about each other still surprises you?
  3. What would you tell a young couple getting married now?

Write down the details they argue about. Those are the parts that make the story theirs.

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If you would rather someone else asked

A biographer who asks the next question.

Fablr holds these conversations by voice, at whatever pace suits them. It follows up the way a good listener does and remembers what they said last time. The stories become a hardcover, with a code on each chapter that plays it in their own voice.

Conversation
15 hours over one year. No schedule.
The book
Full-color 8.5×11 hardcover, included. Free US shipping.
Price
$149, billed once. No auto-renewal.
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Questions, answered.

Ask the other one gently. Many widows and widowers love to tell this story and rarely get the chance. Let them stop whenever they like.

Keep both versions. The disagreement is part of the story.

Ask only if they are comfortable, and keep to what they want to share. The early years still mattered.

Give them a year set aside for stories.

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